Because I want you to THRIVE!
Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right,” and this quote has always stuck with me. If we believe in ourselves and push forward through adversity and fear instead of hiding behind it, we can come out on the other side and make great things happen. But if we wait for someone else to save us from our own unhappiness, to professionally develop us, and take us into greatness, we will most likely have a subpar life that falls short of our hopes and dreams. And it ALL has to do with our mindset…a choice every day to take control of our own lives, at work and at home, so that we can truly make the changes needed to grow.
“Whether you are happy at work or miserable at work, you’re right.”
Why would you even want to carry on being unhappy at work for one more day when we have the gift of living in a country where we actually have choices?
Life is unpredictable (see My Story below) and can be over in a blink of an eye. You have a choice…a choice to no longer subject yourself to a life where you are not thriving and feeling alive, and a choice to determine what success means to you.
What’s your definition of “success”?
We live in this ridiculously fast-paced world and often lose sight of what is important. Think about it. When was the last time you asked yourself what your definition of success is in life? And why is this even important? Because we have inner drives, and our definition of success is determined by them. When our inner drives are not in sync with our external ways of operating in life, we often start feeling disenfranchised and sometimes even depressed. We lose sight of what is important, and often, we lose that inner spark.
Your version of success could look wildly different from others, but it is determined by where you want to grow and what is meaningful to you…just you…in your life. Ignore it and you and those around you will most likely pay the price. We often see this when people are depressed, have addictions, or have problems in many of their relationships. Pay attention to what drives you, carve your career around it, and your life can transform. I have seen it with my clients. It’s truly amazing. When partners support each other in each other’s version of success in life- it is a beautiful act of love (think of the Obamas).
Inner spark is priceless and we all want a piece of it.
You know what I mean by that, right? It is that same inner spark that attracts us to watch talent shows on TV, pay $100+ for a concert ticket, or schlep downtown to watch a theater play. It is in these moments that we are close to that “spark”… the spark we crave in ourselves that leaves us feeling so inspired when we see it in others. That spark is better than anything wealth has to offer, and often if we tap into it at the deepest level, it brings wealth our way.
Look around on you today, at the grocery store, at the restaurant you often frequent for lunch. How many dull eyes do you see staring at screens, dragging through life’s daily grind? Is that really living? Though, what we often don’t realize is that every day we choose to accept what has been placed in front of us, be it good or bad. This includes our jobs, friendships, relationships, and our overall state of being. If you are unhappy in any of these realms and have been there for a while…that is most likely your choice. To be aware and actually drive these daily choices can be the difference between driving your career and personal life versus being a passenger…as a passenger, one unwittingly makes the choice to be the victim of happenstance. To accept what is.
How can you tap into your inner spark and turn your life into greatness?
You become truly aware and tap into your strengths and talents you have to offer and utilize them in your work and think beyond. You get into a SERVE mentality instead of just working to collect a paycheck. Why not strive for both at a job that utilizes your strengths and talents AND makes a great paycheck too? Or live on less but be in a job that excites you? And if you can carve out some meaning in your work…then now you are truly creating the fuel for that inner spark…the fuel for getting up every morning.
Gandhi once said, “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”
And a great place to dive into this philosophy is in our jobs… the place where we spend over 50% of our waking hours.
You don’t have to find your “dream job”. You just need to grow.
Is there even such thing as a “dream job”? After all, work is still work…no matter how much you love it. Finding work you love, also doesn’t mean that you have to start your entire career over in a new direction. It could mean side-stepping over to a better industry, a company with a human service-oriented culture, or just simply carving out more meaning and purpose so you can use your innate strengths to create a fulfilling career. It could be meaningful enough that you are simply providing well for your family if needed. Continuous meaningful personal growth is really the dream you are seeking.
“He who has a “why” to live can bear almost any how.”
What happens when we ignore the “why”?
If we are unhappy, dull, fifty shades of gray (and not the good kind)…even miserable, with no purpose or meaning in our work, there can be a mental and/or physical toll that takes over in our lives and it can become debilitating. It can show up in various ways such as misdirected unhappiness in marriages, addictions in ALL forms, and often health problems.
Suicide is on the rise for males between 45-64. Wealth and riches are not enough to bring happiness, as research has repeatedly conveyed. The tipping point for when wealth stops bringing us happiness and enhancing our well-being is now between $75-95K (depending of course, where you live).
I have traveled globally and have seen the difference in people that bring purpose and value into their work. Their lives are rich, no matter what level of salary they bring home… no matter what jobs they have. The importance of threading meaning into one’s work can be the difference between life and death sometimes. We spend over half of our waking hours at work typically, so doesn’t that make sense?
I know this first hand because sadly my husband died when my son was only 4. He had been running a company without a mission statement… without staying on top of his industry.. without meaning… and it had been too much for him. Depression took over and without warning, he took his life. I love and miss him greatly. That will never change. He was a good person and it’s a sad story, but strangely some good aspects came out of it on the other side. It blew me open in ways I needed to be opened up. I am more aware and empathetic in the aftermath of it all. The one lesson that really was a game-changer for how I moved forward in life with my 4-year old son, was that I realized that no one could save us from this experience. Everyone had their own busy lives. It was up to me to move us forward in a healthy way. Happiness and growth, as well as blowing through fear, became a choice every day.
Having a healthy happy meaningful life for my son and I, and choosing to work hard for it, was a daily choice. The alternative of “just getting by” was not an option for us. This is no different than the choice everyone has to make on a daily basis in both professional and personal lives.
Empowering others to thrive through personal and professional development was always an inner drive for me. After my husband died, for obvious reasons, it became my mission. Misalignment and lack of personal growth in one’s work can slowly take a person down over time. It can slip in like toxic fumes and become cancer to one’s soul.
Creating a methodology to help others align and actualize meaningful work became my reason for starting Career 5. When people are thriving, they take care of themselves, their families, and the planet better. Everyone around you benefits if you are thriving. Your loved ones often suffer when you’re not.
You have a choice every day to live in happenstance or to make great things happen. I live in Colorado. I witnessed three deaths last year: two on a creek in the Spring where I run, and one on the highway where a mother and son were killed by a drunk driver in the morning. Life happens, and death, inevitably, awaits us all. Be fearless in your work and life. If you go unexpectedly- do you want to look back at your life in your final moments with regrets? One life…maybe more…maybe not. None of us really know. What have you got to lose by taking chances? You have more to lose by not taking chances.
The difference between managing your career versus not.
My research over the years has shown the vast differences in socioeconomic levels and educational pathways, and ultimately how they affect one’s career path. It was the main reason I chose to work at the community college level versus following my prior university pathway. I have worked with an array of high school and college graduates, sprinkled with many ivy-leaguers giving me a unique perspective as to the differences between these worlds and upbringings.
Those who were taught by their parents and others along the way to utilize career, executive coaching, or mentors, strategized and managed their careers with meaning and intention and saw their goals and dreams come to fruition (some in extraordinary ways). They were often the ones that taught their kids to strategize and manage their careers as well…to be the drivers of their careers.
Most of us were never taught how to manage our careers. Most of us operate as cogs in the wheels at work. We don’t have to accept this reality. Invest in your own career growth.
You have been “tracked” in your education and at work for better or worse.
There is an underlying “tracking” that occurs in both education and work. It doesn’t come from a man behind a current (think Oz), but naturally based on if we are performing well or not , and it starts with middle school and continues all the way through your career. Imagine a giant conveyor belt in an airport luggage system. So, if in middle school, you are not doing well academically, you get tracked out of the best classes, the best teachers, the best opportunities. Doors start closing. For those with an unchecked learning impediment like A.D.D., sensory issues, or dyslexia this can be really devastating. Davis Guggenheim directed a great documentary called “Waiting for Superman” about this.
This tracking also continues into college. That is why people try so hard to get into or get their kids into ivy league schools because it opens up doors to elite opportunities that are normally closed to the mainstream. And in jobs, this kind of tracking happens as well, because if you are disenfranchised and your performance level is just average, then you can typically hit a certain tier at your work and stay there indefinitely.
People who never learned to manage their careers and aren’t cultivated well in companies due to poor budgets or lack of interest in employee professional development can often unwittingly become roadblocked. That is when people become complacent, unhappy, and are often wondering why their company is not “grooming” them. If this resonates with you, you are not alone, and it’s not your fault. You can break out of this.
That is why it is important to groom yourself and blow open your own doors… which means to become the driver of your career, instead of the passenger, by developing a career growth strategy.
You can catapult your career at any time and age.
Here is the good news… you can break out of any roadblocked pathway at any time, and catapult your career if you have the drive. The effort and action just need to come from you…and you also don’t have to be a workaholic to do this. You just need be smart, strategic, and focus your efforts in the most fruitful places. This is something we strive to do with our clients using our unique approach.
In my research, I realized there was a building blocks process that paralleled that of scaling up a business. So start treating your career as your own personal business. Think YOU, Inc.. Our careers, if strategized and managed well, can be our greatest personal, professional, and financial growth vehicle…a rare 3-for-1.
I am dedicated to educate and empower you to THRIVE.
I have dedicated my work and this company to help my clients strategize and manage their careers faster and more effectively….and I wanted to make it accessible to all by offering different levels of affordability instead of aiming for only those that can afford high-end packages- because everyone should be able to have access to this information.
Did you know, according to research by the University of Scranton, that a staggering 92 percent of people that set New Year’s goals, never actually achieve them? We realized that there needed to be a system to help people get there faster… a way to help them sift through their drives, motivations, and what was important so that they could map out their paths from A-Z to stay on track with their growth, which is why we developed a career management system called the Career 5 Roadmap CMS©.
“By having an actionable plan, you become 42% more likely to achieve your goals and dreams, simply by writing them down on a regular basis.” – Dr. Gail Matthews
Only you can make your great life happen. Invest in your own career growth.
Take the wheel and be the driver of your career. It’s a concept that, when embraced, can be so empowering. When you are on the right path for you, utilizing your talents and strengths in a meaningful way, you will be surprised by how much support you will get. Your positive energy and spark will shine through and you will begin to feel more energetic and be able to give back more. Seeing this change in my clients is, by far, the BEST part of my job. So remember, we are here to support you through your journey so that you can be the best version of yourself -starting today!
Best to you,
Strategic Career Coach and Founder of Career 5