Because I want you to THRIVE!
Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right,” and this quote has always stuck with me because to me, it means that if we believe in ourselves and push forward through adversity and fear instead of hiding behind it, we can come out on the other side and make great things happen. But if we wait for someone else to save us from our own unhappiness, professionally develop us, and take us into greatness, we will most likely have a subpar life that falls short of our hopes and dreams. And it ALL has to do with our mindset…a choice every day to take control of our lives at work and at home so that we can truly make the changes needed in our lives to grow.
You don’t have to be unhappy or miserable at work. Why would you even want to carry this existence on for one more day when we have the gift of living in a country where we actually have choices?
Life is unpredictable (see My Story below) and can be over in a blink of an eye. You have a choice…a choice to no longer subject yourself to a life where you are not thriving and feeling alive. You have a gift of living in a country where you can determine what success means to you.
What’s Your Definition of Success?
We live in this ridiculously fast-paced world and often lose sight of what is important. Think about it. When was the last time you asked yourself what your definition of success is in life? And why is this even important? Because we have inner drives, and when our inner drives are not in sync with our external ways of operating in life, we often start feeling depressed. We lose sight of what is important, and often, we lose that inner spark.
Your version of success could look wildly different from others, but it is how deep down you truly need to grow. Ignore it and you and those around you will most likely pay the price. We often see this when people are depressed, have addictions, or have problems in many of their relationships. Pay attention what drives you, carve your career around it, and your life can transform. I have seen it with my clients. It’s truly amazing. When partners support each other in each other’s version of success in life- it is a beautiful act of love. It is why everyone loves the Obamas.
Inner spark is priceless and we all want a piece of it.
You know what I mean by that, right? It is that same inner spark that attracts us to watch talent shows on TV, pay $100+ for a concert ticket, or schlep downtown to watch a theater play. It is in these moments that we are close to that “spark”… the spark we crave in ourselves that leaves us feeling so inspired when we see it in others. That spark is better than anything wealth has to offer, and often if we tap into it at the deepest level, it brings wealth our way.
Look around on you today, at the grocery store, at the restaurant you often frequent for lunch. How many dull eyes do you see staring at screens, dragging through life’s daily grind? Is that really living? Though, what we often don’t realize is that every day, it is our choice to accept what has been placed in front of us on a daily basis- our jobs, our bad friendships and relationships, our distractions, and our unhappiness. It is the difference between driving our careers and personal lives versus being a passenger…as a passenger, we are continuously making the choice of being the unwitting victim of happenstance.
How can you tap into your inner spark and turn your life into greatness?
You become truly aware and tap into your strengths and talents you have to offer and utilize them in your work and think beyond. You get into a SERVE mentality instead of just working to collect a paycheck. Why not strive for both at a job that utilizes your strengths and talents AND makes a great paycheck too? Or live on less but be in a job that excites you? And if you can carve out some meaning in your work…then now you are truly creating the fuel for that inner spark…the fuel for getting up in every morning.
Gandhi once said, “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”
And a great place to dive into this philosophy is in our jobs… the place where we spend over 50% of our waking hours.
Finding your spark does not mean that you have to find your “Dream Job”.
Afterall, work is still work…no matter how much you love it. It doesn’t even mean that you have to start your entire career over in a new direction. It could mean side-stepping over to a better industry, a company with a human service-oriented culture, or just simply carving out more meaning and purpose so you can use your innate strengths to create a fulfilling career. It could be that you are simply providing well for your family if needed.
“He who has a “why” to live can bear almost any how.”
What happens when we ignore the “why”?
If we are unhappy, dull, fifty shades of gray (and not the good kind)…even miserable, with no purpose or meaning in our work, there can be a mental and/or physical toll taken on our lives and our loved ones that can be debilitating. It can show up in various ways such as misdirected unhappiness in marriages, addictions in ALL forms, and often health problems.
Suicide is on the rise for males between 45-64. Wealth and riches are not enough to bring happiness, as research has repeatedly conveyed. The tipping point for when wealth stops bringing us happiness and enhancing our well-being is now between $75-95K (depending of course, where you live). I have traveled globally and have seen the difference in people that bring purpose and value into their work. Their lives are rich, no matter what level of salary they bring home… no matter what job they have. The importance of threading meaning into one’s work can be the difference between life and death sometimes. We spend over half of our waking hours at work typically, so doesn’t that make sense?
I know this first hand because sadly my husband died when my son was only 4. He had been running a company without a mission statement, without staying on top of his industry, without meaning and it had been too much for him, depression took over and without warning, he took his life. It’s a sad story, but I learned so much from that experience and it oddly made me a much better human. It blew me open in ways I needed to be opened up. People infused me with love and kindness and I will never forget that and will forever be more empathetic and grateful to others because of it. The one lesson that really was a game-changer for how I moved forward with my 4-year old son, was that I realized that no one could save us from this life explosion, but me. Everyone had their own busy lives.
Having a healthy happy life and working hard for it on a daily basis was a choice. The alternative of “just getting by” was not an option for us I decided. This is no different than the choice we have to live on a daily basis in our work and personal lives.
I would never wish that scenario on my husband again if there was a “do-over” for I deeply loved him, but I can not deny it had greatly changed me for the better…the weird gift at the end of atrocity. The reason for his death, as you can imagine, fueled my mission in my work-life.
I learned to be fearless. Not in a careless way, but in a “calculated risks” kind of way. I learned that I had to be more on top of my career because I was a single mother now, and that I had to work in a career where I could give back by utilizing my strengths, talents and drives so that I would not lose my spark. Empowering others to thrive through personal and professional development was always my passion. Creating a methodology to help others align and actualize amazing careers became my reason for starting Career5. I ask my clients to create their own tagline for their careers, and now I have two: “Happy people. Happy planet.” and “I help people actualize amazing careers.” What would your tagline be? Everyone around you benefits from you thriving.
You have a choice every day to let life happen to you or ride life like an unpredictable ocean wave and learn to enjoy the ride. I live in Colorado. I witnessed three deaths last year: two on a creek I run on in the spring, and one on the highway, where a mother and son were killed by a drunk driver in the morning. LIfe happens. Be fearless in your work and life. If you go unexpectedly- do you want to look back at your life with regrets?
The difference between managing your career versus not.
My research over the years has shown me the vast difference in socioeconomic levels and educational pathways. It was the main reason I chose to work at the community college level versus following my prior university pathway. I have worked with an array of high school and college graduates, sprinkled with many ivy-leaguers giving me a unique perspective as to the differences between these worlds and upbringings. Those who were taught by their parents and others along the way to utilize career, executive coaching, or mentors, strategized and managed their careers with meaning and intention and saw their goals and dreams come to fruition (some in extraordinary ways), and often were the ones that taught their kids to strategize and manage their careers as well.
You have been “tracked” in your education and at work for better or worse.
There is an underlying “tracking” of sorts that starts with middle school and continues all the way through your career. Imagine a giant conveyor belt in an airport luggage system. So, if in middle school, you are not doing well, you start getting tracked out of the best classes, the best teachers, the best opportunities. Doors start closing. For those with A.D.D. or some other learning impediment, this can be really devastating. Davis Guggenheim directed a great documentary called “Waiting for Superman” about this. There are brilliant people who may not be formally educated but can run businesses better than those with MBAs. I run across them ALL the time. There are also highly intelligent formally uneducated people hacking the internet successfully on a daily basis to steal individual’s identities. The less we invest in education in our country, the more we will run across this.
This tracking also continues into college. That is why people try so hard to get into or get their kids into ivy league schools. It opens up doors to elite opportunities that are normally closed to the mainstream. And in jobs, tracking will happen as well, because if you are an underperformer or mid-level performer, you can typically hit a certain tier at your work and stay there indefinitely. People who are not cultivated well in companies due to poor budgets, or employers who simply just don’t invest in their employees can often fall into this path of mediocre or low performance unknowingly. That is when people get complacent, unhappy, and are wondering why their company is not “grooming” them.
That is why I believe in grooming yourself…breaking out of any tracking system… becoming the driver of your career instead of the passenger by getting a strategy.
You can catapult your career at any time and any age.
Here is the good news… you can break out of any track at any time and catapult your career if you have the drive. People are forgiving. People will accept your change, and if not, you can always start over new somewhere else. The drive and effort just need to come from you. And, you also don’t have to be a workaholic to do it. You just need be smart, strategic, and focus your efforts in the most fruitful places. This is something we strive to do with our clients using a unique approach.
In my research, I realized there was a building blocks processthat paralleled the that of scaling up a business. So start treating your career as your own personal business. Think YOU, Inc.! Our careers, if strategized and managed well, can be our greatest personal and financial growth vehicles…a rare 2-for-1.
I am dedicated to educate and empower you to THRIVE.
I have dedicated my work and this company to help my clients strategize and manager their careers faster and more effectively….and I wanted to make it accessible to all by offering different levels of affordability instead of aiming for only those that can afford high-end packages- because everyone should be able to have access to this information.
Did you know, according to research by the University of Scranton, that a staggering 92 percent of people that set New Year’s goals never actually achieve them? We realized that there needed to be a system to help people get there faster… a way to help them sift through their drives, motivations, and what was important so that they could map out their paths from A-Z to stay on track, which is why we developed a career management platform called the Career5 Roadmap©.
“By having an actionable plan, you become 42% more likely to achieve your goals and dreams, simply by writing them down on a regular basis.” – Dr. Gail Matthews
Only you can make your great life happen, and we want to support your efforts!
I want you to experience this. I want you to thrive and use your strengths and talents because we will ALL be better off for it. All I ask from you is that you “take the wheel” and OWN your career journey. You individually need to invest in yourself and cultivate your own growth to forge your own path, because no one will ever hand you your dreams.
It’s a concept that, when embraced, can be so empowering. When you are on the right path for you, utilizing your talents and strengths in a meaningful way, you will be surprised by how much support you will get. Your positive energy and spark will shine through and you will begin to feel more energetic and be able to give back more. Seeing this change in my clients is, by far, the BEST part of my job. So remember, we are here to support you through your journey so that you can be the best version of yourself -starting today!
Best to you,
Strategic Career Coach and Founder of Career5